I got my first vibrator when i was in college. It was a birthday gift shipped from Australia which i proclaimed had the best ROI ever. When it finally went kaput five years later, i was so sad i wrote a blogpost in commemoration of it, and invited friends to its funeral.
“I’m thinking of having a burial for my bunny.”
“I didn’t know you had one, don’t you have a dog?”
“Oh it’s not that kind of bunny… but it can still be buried in a park right? I was thinking why not.”
“… Oh my god Joyce! What if some kid’s dog digs it up!? In the park! In front of children!”
Bunny funeral failed to take place.
Regardless, there’s nothing like a girl’s first adult toy.
I personally think it’s a much healthier and less skanky option than going without.
Back then, the only way one could get sex toys in KL was this pathetic shop on the top floor in Mid Valley which had measly options sold at unreasonable prices. Hence all the girls i knew were getting friends to bring them back from Australia or the UK. Flying them in was a risk cos the customs officers could confiscate them, then what could one do? Bye bye a few hundred RM for a gadget.
My first foray into a proper sex store was walking back from art class in London (it must have been 1999/2000), when i saw a gigantic store i couldn’t help ducking shyly into, to take a peek. I didn’t spend long in there, cos i felt awkward, and also didn’t have the money to buy anything.
A dozen years later, i found myself browsing in an acclaimed adult toy store in Berlin which sold products, one of which was even recognised by Red Dot. There were shapes and things which i had no idea did WHAT, but they were all just so fascinating! What made the situation even better was how unperturbed all the customers in the store were. Women and men of all ages were casually shopping for toys in the afternoon as if they were examining produce in the supermarket.
Now, options in Malaysia have advanced to a certain degree, with the launch of a series of friendly-looking adult toys in alluring shades that are being sold at selected Watsons stores and the website.
Called Smile Makers, the seemingly coy brand is not to be taken lightly. It’s received positive reviews from the likes of Grazia, GQ, Marie Claire, Cosmopolitan, ELLE, The Sunday Times and Metro; and won awards like a Cannes Lion 2013 (France) Silver, One Show 2013 (USA) 2x Gold, AWARD 2013 (Australia) Silver and Gold, and was a Finalist at Fast Company’s Innovation by Design in 2013.
How’s that for recognition.
Having collaborated with gynaecologists, sexologists, and beauty experts from all over the world; they all agree that a better sex life means better health. Not only does a good sex life – alone or with a partner – affect confidence and how beautiful you feel, it actually improves your health and how beautiful you look. This could explain the ‘glow’ that everyone comments on when one embarks on a new relationship.
“Having a fulfilling sex life clearly contributes to good physical and psychological health, whether the satisfaction is obtained solo or between two persons. Self-exploration is an important step in the human psychosexual development, which allows one to discover and better know one’s body, its sensations and erogenous zones. Vibrators are very useful for learning feminine pleasure.” – Dr. Juliette Buffat
Psychiatrist and Sexologist
Switzerland
“Many people do not realise that sexual well-being is important for health, and when we are time-strapped it naturally ranks low on the priority list. Studies have shown that being sexually stimulated, whether through sex or self-pleasure, creates endorphins and oxytocin which in turn trigger positive feelings and wellbeing.” – Professor P. Ganesan Adaikan PhD.
Research Professor, Department of Obstetrics & Gynaecology,
National University of Singapore
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And what do these Smile Makers look like..?
Each design is inspired by different personalities and characters with different functions to help women explore all kinds of orgasms.
Say hello to the Fireman, The Frenchman, The Tennis Coach and The Millionaire.
L-R:
The Fireman is a uniquely-shaped clitoral vibrator featuring an intense nose, exhilarating tip, and ‘soft flames’ for extra sensation.
The Frenchman is a super flexible and soft electric feather of vibrators.
The Tennis Coach is a gentle G-spot vibrator for vi-curious women.
The Millionaire is a classic bullet vibrator with perfectly crafted form.
The personal massagers retail at RM129 each, and are fully-waterproof, phthalate-free, and made with super-smooth, 100% body-safe, FDA-approved silicone. It comes in 4 speeds + 1 pulsation mode while promising to be surprisingly quiet.
If you’re stuck with what to get a girl friend for a present, I’d say this is a great option. I’m unabashed to say i’ve gifted at least five vibrators to some of my closest girl friends in past years and their faces shone when they talked about what a great present it was.
Instead of having it at one location for a day or two, the 14-year-old Urbanscapes festival has become a city-wide creative arts celebration happening in various venues throughout KL for 2 weeks till 8th May. Tonight (1st May) will see Rudimental performing at KL Journal, and M83 on May 7th at KL Live. I watched M83 live in Belgium, and they were astounding.
Expect pop-up playgrounds with music, theatre, design, art installations, markets and experiential events headlined by international and homegrown talents. Last week Jun and i went to check out Urbanscapes House, the heritage “OCBC Bank” art deco building (2 Jalan Hang Kasturi). It serves as the festival hub by occupying five floors and will host three weekends of art festivities. When you enter, there will be an Urbanscapes Café that will feature a signature menu created by their food partners. Next weekend (May 7th and 8th) KinkyBlueFairy will be at Urbanscapes House with a fun photowall. The team will be there, and so will i so come take some fun pix and say hi!
Mother’s Day is next weekend on May 8th! Don’t forget people!
Some would say every day should be Mother’s Day, and i do agree that we should treat our parents great on any given day, butttt after seeing my friends become moms and hearing how challenging it can be, i think one day out of the year to specially commemorate all mothers and their unflagging efforts to raise us the best they can, shouldn’t go unnoticed.
My mum is the type who doesn’t want a fuss on her birthday or Mother’s Day. She says this but… we don’t care and just try to plan things / buy something / send something anyway. It’s not about how much something costs (i THINK) but the effort and thought one puts into it.
1. Flowers!
I first heard of BloomThis when Veena sent me a box as a housewarming gift when i moved in last year. They put together the most beautiful selection of flowers and provide a subscription service (so you can order flowers for your own home once a week/month, etc). For Mother’s Day, they’ve got flowers ranging from RM 69 – RM 189. Check it out *here*
BloomThis has provided KBF readers with a RM15 discount off their bouquets, just enter “joycebloom15” when ordering through their website bloomthis.co
2. Balloons!
We do custom-order balloons at KinkyBlueFairy! All you have to do is tell us your budget, colour preference / which balloons you want in the bunch, and we’ll put it together and deliver it. I do this for friends’ birthdays all the time… (which is probably the main reason why i set this hobby business up. I wanted to use it for myself haha). For orders, email andrew@kinkybluefairy.com and team@kinkybluefairy.com.
3. RM 1,000 shopping spree!
I subscribe to Nelissa Hilman and saw in my inbox that the shoe brand has teamed up with other gorgeous Malaysian designer brands Dipped Row, Mimpikita and Frankitas to offer a lucky mum a RM 1,000 shopping spree! Such a good idea. Read more details on the contest *here*. It runs May 1st-7th!
Definition of grinch according to thesaurus: complainer, dampener, grouch, moaner, pessimist, whiner, doomsdayer, partypooper, prophet of doom (haha), wet blanket, and (oh i love this one) stick in the mud.
I admit i can be all of that. Despite my desire and best intentions to be 100% happy, it’s just not possible (nor normal, methinks). Polarity exists in all forms, and is reflected in our moods. The knowledge that i can be exceedingly sickeningly shout-at-the-top-of-the-mountain kinda happy, also means i can be contrastingly moody and angry at times. It’s not a part of me i like, but come to accept as a PASSING of emotions. I’ve learnt that if one feels negative, it’s best to just sit with the emotion, feel it, wonder where it’s coming from and whether one can fix it, but also embrace it’s just how i feel at the moment, and like all moments, it shall pass. Sometimes i can feel angry or sad for no apparent reason, which really boggles my mind and tires me trying to figure it out. I felt this need to be so perfect all the time. To always be in a perfect mood for every task i have to do. And… i don’t have to. The only person putting all that on me, is me. The only person making me feel bad, is me. And you too. The only person you’re allowing to make you feel a certain way, is yourself.
So whenever i’m not feeling my best, i understand that it’s just my body and spirit’s way of wanting to get out of everyone’s way, so i can be by myself, and just recalibrate my energy. And it works. It always works.
