I didn’t think of deleting any of the hateful comments i got at first.
Branding me a slut, a boyfriend-stealer, amongst others.
“I’m so sorry… are you okay?” asked DM.
“Yeah. I’m fine,” i said flatly.
“I don’t know how you do it…”
“Well, i know it’s not true. And we have no idea who these people are. So why let it bother me? If i listened to everything people had to say about me, i wouldn’t be myself!”
I wouldn’t.
I’d be too cautious and choked up, afraid and wondering what people people people will say.
“Can’t you take them down?”
“Yes… but i won’t. Cos i have nothing to hide.”
“But it’s not fair..!”
“I know it’s not fair. It’s just circumstance.”
“Do you want me to leave a comment and say something?” he asked worriedly.
I laughed. “What are you going to say? Gosh, don’t need la.”
So i left them up.
Someone else branded him a slut.
“What… i’ve never been called a slut before!” he shook his head in disbelief.
I joked wryly, “See… maybe you shouldn’t go out with a blogger, huh?”
He gave a lopsided smile in reply.
So still i left them up.
And they got worse… and worse.
Stupid people are, and always will be, stupid.
They only talk and listen to what they want to hear.
The fact that you spoke to a close friend of the ex means you have all the story?
I’m sure everyone has their own version to the story.
Have you bothered asking DM what he has to say?
I consulted blog tai kor Kenny Sia.
Kenny Sia says:
wtf some ppl too free
*KinkyChillFairy* says:
do you moderate your comments? or you don’t bother
Kenny Sia says:
of course i delete some nasty comments
its my web space, i paid for it
why should i allow abusive comments to reside on my site?
like i’m paying ppl to abuse me
*KinkyChillFairy* says:
lol
Kenny Sia says:
damn not worth it right?
but it sucks that that’s the case lah
seriously, feel free to del the comments
or if u can ban the ip, even better
*KinkyChillFairy* says:
ha ok, i ask my programmer
seriously -_- go see my last post comments. they like fucking cannot stop ok
Kenny Sia says:
u gotta be able to track the ip address from ur admin window
see if they’re the same folks
*KinkyChillFairy* says:
they are
i just checked
In our short conversation, his line repeated in my head: “Of course i delete some nasty comments.
Its my web space, i paid for it. Why should i allow abusive comments to reside on my site? Like i’m paying ppl to abuse me.”
So for the first time since i moved site, i deleted the comments.
But to the poor hardworking folk who have been diligently posting those comments, why, hello there.
Of course, by hello, i’m referring to the three or so people who have been finding time to invest in fictional story-telling, but you already knew this was for you. Why wouldn’t you? The only reason you would stop by and have a little chat is because you’d want me to respond.
So here i am.
Unfortunately for you, this isn’t a two-way conversation. If i made a little effort, i can probably confirm your identities, but where’s the fun in that? Of course, the fun lies in *your* claims. Oh, and for the others reading this, by *your*, i mean the three IPs who have been spamming comments the past few days. Staggering crowd, i know.
You call me a slut. I call you a liar.
You call me a thief. I call you a liar.
You call caution to my kinky name. What are you, nine-years-old?
This isn’t a rebuttal, because i don’t owe you an explanation, especially when you don’t have the balls to tell it to my face and have me slam it back at yours in return. I can and should elaborate on all the things which will inevitably make you look like an idiot, but that’s not necessary. I say this because you’re still the coward behind the monitor, and i’m the one asking you to, at the very least, con more people into joining your deluded cause because frankly, if you want a revolution, build an army.
At least don’t be silly and lie about it too.
Oh, wow… I guess you really got to me because look, you took up 15 minutes of my drinking time at Somo.
If you have further questions, please, feel free to ask me there.
I might even buy you a drink.
No poison. I promise.
heya,
i had something similar on my blog last year. just ignore them and they’ll probably stop harassing you in a bit. hopefully.
take care!
guess it comes with the popularity and also being ‘easily accessible’ if you know what i mean. whatever the case, bf stealer or not. if the former were true, shit happens. and to hell if anyone casts judgment on you, we’re all assholes in the end of the day. if not, gotta let things slide. cos its true. bloody well don’t owe anyone an explanation.
people who leave negative comments about you are just jealous of what you hav achieved.best thing is scared them away by tracking them and called the police.Scared them mah..who knows..that might end their hate comments activities in your blogs.
it sucks to have all the hate comments for no apparent reason.sadness..some people are just so sad..lol..
hey joyce! good on you for deleting those hateful comments . they obviously wanna believe on side of the story ( most people do that unfortunately) but who cares . you know the truth so good on you mate
take care , goodluck with DM
just delete those comments.it’s ur personal site.don’t allow those pollutants to leave their mark here.menyebok only.some people just can’t take it that you’re really well-known
Hey Joyce, I’m sorry to hear about people posting up negative/rude remarks about you. Just ignore them, not worth your time….really, you don’t owe them an explanation. They are probably jeolous that you leading such an exciting life and they are plain losers hiding behind the monitor. So keep up with your good work and enjoy your life. You don’t need toxic people in your blog.Stuff them π take care.
Ignore them…those people that say -ve things about you are plain losers themselves, so they talk about other people. Best thing for you to do is to delete their comments and get on with your life. Why bother with those toxic comments/people. They are not worth your time + energy. You have far better things to do with your life than to respond to these morons that polute your blogsphere. Take care π
Don’t bother about negative comments, for we know they are just jealous buggers trying to ruin your day.
Just bear in mind that you don’t need these people anywhere near your life, and lots of people love the way you blog. π I for one am a faithful reader. :]
hi joyce.
i drop by your blog every once in a while. well, at least once or twice a week. (:
i gotta say that you’re nothing near a slut or anything similar to that.
just go on doing your own thing and ignore those people. they’re just probably lifeless. i got comments like that on my blog too.
the best way to solve it is probably just ignore them.
till then, take care.
debzzz,
“Why bother with those toxic comments/people. They are not worth your time + energy. You have far better things to do with your life than to respond to these morons that polute your blogsphere”
I hate to break it to ya, but she did reply.
You have a very cool taste in fashion π
People who write stuff like that are plain losers. There’s so many other names to label them, but I find the best – losers. It happens to most bloggers and well, it’s pretty unavoidable. When, oh when, will these people realize how dumb they appear to be?
You’re cool and famous and you know it. Let them hate.
I say thank goodness for deleting nasty comments, they belong where they should be, in the trash bin. Why? Cause its a bunch of crap. You are honest, sassy and your blog is absolutely fun to read. Anyone with half a decent thinking ability will know what’s right and what’s wrong. KinkyblueFairy is such a cool name, beats the name “PrincessAhMoi” anytime… not that there’s anything wrong with a name like that (btw, that’s just a fictional name). For every 1 malicious, bitter cowardly person that post a comment like that, know that there are 20 of us silent supporters who never post comments but read your blog frequently.
BTW, I was heart broken with you on your post about your dog… I am so sorry to hear about your lost. My dog is approaching 12 years old, and I actually received her when she was born, so its going to be difficult. Knowing that there are people out there going through the same thing makes it easier to know that though we mourn the lost there are other things to celebrate and remember.
On another matter, I always thought you had such a good for video image. Have you ever thought of vlogging? Will leave it at that before this gets to be an essay. Yeh, crap comments belongs in the trash!
p.s. Is the FuYoh Street Blast event over? For some reason, with this skin, I can’t use the scroll bar properly. I wonder if its a Firefox thing, or a Machintosh thing… but anyway… its a pain to scroll down with the skin, and forget about even scrolling back up. Looking forward to the old skin. Just FYI.
negative commentators are so frigging nasty. i got that quite often although my blog is pretty damn weeee, let alone yours which is super popular and definitely fun to read
*thumbs up*
they are so hideous that at one point, i came to a final decision to take down my blog but all my friends enlightened me saying that… why would i do that for handful of suckers while i have loads of friends who enjoy what i post
let them losers live their pathetic life since they could only be happy by ditching people/bloggers who are having genuine fun
keep the spirit up and drink loads… but not for emo-ing purposes =]
hey joyce,
i’ve been reading your blog for some time now, nearly every other day. love the way you write, how brutally honest you can be. and that’s hard to do because you’re pouring your whole life story in here (maybe not all, but heck you get my idea). kudos to you, and give two flying fucks to those who loves irking the shit out of you.
take care π
Fuck the haters.
When I started dating my boyfriend, his ex started spreading stupid rumours and everyone chose to believe her, it was this whole dramatic saga which is thankfully, over!
People hate you when there’s something in you they wish they had anyway. You’re still fabulous xoxo
Yeah.just delete those comments. Some haters just hv nothing else to do than being all judgmental.
you rock,still!
Heya Joyce,
F*ck those shitheads with nothing better to do than posting lies on people’s blogs.
You’re great so hang in there.
I always believe everyone has their own opinions and we cannot afford to please everyone so just ignore those people with no brains!
Babe you rock and love your blog!
Cheers!!
love this entry. keep up with the attitude. it rocks!
π
if you’re a slut then you’re my slut and i mean that in a good way joycie woycie..and im gonna cling on to you no matter what! he he lublub
My sister kena the same thing. Best part was, they were all guys. Harhar
You can’t care too much sometimes so…great move
just ignore those losers
good luck with your DM
π
yeap. shouldn’t let it bother you.
They have lots of envy.
Ignore ignore.
Didn’t read any of the hateful messages (phew), but hey, at least you get hatemail. Haha!
i’m a Slut, who cares?
hey! i dont think youre anywhere near a slut/whore/boyfriendstealer and all that bullshit la. i suppose its the price you pay for being truthful about yourself kan? haha. all these people have such sad lives they cant stand theirs that theyve got to get in the way of others! and just for your info, i actually enjoy reading your blog alot. it gets me through those annoying days that you just wanna sit home and read what joyce has to say. =)
hey joyce, keep u the good work on blogging. π as for those morons…sometimes i just dont get them. they insult u…leave insulting comments…but keep coming back to read?! where’s the logic in that?! farking hypocrites!!
Hey Joyce,
You can’t satisfy everyone. Let people say what they want to say. After a while, they’ll get tired of talking about you and all those mean stuffs that they have to say. They will soon realise their ‘job’ is very “mou liew” in Cantonese. Um, not sure of the pronunciation of the word though.
BTW, is stephthevolcano currently studying in college? I happen to see someone that looks exactly like her in your previous pictures.
And you definitely need to eat more and cheer up. π
Take care.
Hey Joyce.
Honestly, I enjoy reading your blog and the pix makes it even more interesting. Dont worry about those people calling you sluts and all. They’re prolly jealous of your red hair and happening lifestyle. Hoho.
I’ve read countless other bloggers’ responses to hate comments.
honestly, yours is the best I’ve read.
your blog’s awesome.
period.
Hey…been lurking ur blog for a long time now. Just wanna say that people like that do shit because thy’re jealous and insecure of themselves.
This sums up to—U r waaaay better than them! Period.
All the best. cheers!
boy, u sure have a lot of dumb ppl who just happen to be on your side and knows nothing of the truth. you are still a slut and a boyfriend stealer…and the best thing is, i do know you and half the ppl who reads ur blog have no idea what’s really going on. good for all those ppl. ignorance is truly bliss then.
i dont understand why some people are so goddamn free to leave hate comments lah. Got nothing better to do is it? Btw Joyce, love ur blog ;). Dont care what other people say about you, cos at the end of the day, it doesnt really matter anymore cos they are the one who’s gonna lead a sad, pathetic, lonely life.
Joyce – I left a comment that was far from hateful in language, that made a simple point: no one can know a person’s intent by the act alone. I am not Malaysian, nor am I in your city, nor do I know any of the people involved in your relationship, and I did not make multiple posts. Others who did let their comments down because they do not write English well (see ‘CSI’ above) and make their points very poorly.
I notice that many comments above are supportive of you based on how well you write and how open you are with your life. These are terrific things that certainly many people are envious of. But it does not follow that a well-written person with an interesting blog is automatically blameless. I think the point CSI is making is that the ex is outnumbered because your readers (most of whom don’t know you or her) care more about your blog (persona) than her breakup (in real life). I like your blog persona too, but in fairness, I also sympathize with her breakup and wonder what part you played in it.
yayyyy.
practice selective vision.
if you don’t notice them, they don’t exist.
hey there!
have been reading your blog for quite some time, but commenting for the first time.
i don’t know you, so obviously i don’t know about the drama that’s going on here..
all i wanna say is, people have their rights to say anything that they want, be it good or bad.
what matters most is how you handle it. you can choose to ignore it, and let the hate mail keep flooding in..
or you can choose to confront them, explaining your side of the story to clear things up.
if you feel that you haven’t done anything wrong, then i guess you shouldn’t let their words bother you.
i hope i made some sense here.. i’m not that good of a writer so i may be poor in delivering my point..
LOL… i guess different people handle things differently… just ignore them joyce… but at least u gotta admit, playing childish roles when u r already too old for it is very interesting and funny to see… Just laugh your head off when people do childish things joyce… I always do tat.. i get hate comments as well.. but i usually laugh it off and treat it as if they envy my life… heheheheee… but my life is sooooo nothing compare to your life joyce… i really envy your interesting life… π
YAYYY !!. GO FAIRY !. screw the rumors and gossip mongers . on the plus though , the more ” no ones ” talk about you ; they more they contribute to you becoming a ” someone ” . [= take good good care k . ps// i’ve always been a fan <3
gosh…reminded me of the time i was in a downhill stage with the now-ex-bf. he got close to a girl simply for company and i trusted them…she was apparently a hot item and guys @ work were jealous…i blogged about my heartache of the failing r’ship. someone read it, left a comment from work (i checked the ip) stating tht the ex was with someone else, which i knew who he/she reffered to….and i know wasnt true…but…i became a victim of wat-ifs, dissapointments, felt betrayed and paranoia…it was hurtful….
but….i had frens who blasted tht bugger off….tembak the bugger kao kao
they wanna build an army againts u? tht’ll take alotta time and alotta convincing to do…
we are what we are, cant deny sometimes unfavourable comments bug us…but being the more MATURE party in this, u’ve got nothing to fear abt…..
First come ego, then pride followed by humility ended with foolishness…
Why aren’t any of your close friends defending you?
Washing dirty laundry in public is not always wise…
π
HEY Joyce! Sasha here. just dropping by to tell you, some people should look into the mirror and reflect on themselves before leaving nasty comments and judging other people. I think you are fab! Maybe they just couldn’t accept the fact that you have talent in what you do (writing, photography) and you’ve got a down to earth personality. no one wants to hear them whine about their sad life, that is why they have all the time in the world to put nasty comments in your blog. it’s obvious that you’ve got tons of people supporting you =)
oh well Fairy, you’re a gr8 blogger, and you have your string of loyal readers, so don’t bother la all this hurtful comments, who cares rite? As long as your true to yourself & DM. Be urself. All da best with DM.
ps : I love your fashion sense woman, you’re really one of a kind. hehe (^^)
people can be so two-faced, joyce. for all you know, they know you in person and pretend to be nice to you in real life. you are better than them, take it from me! the other day i was with a friend, she expressed some unflattering opinions about you for whatever reason, and i was trying to convince her otherwise, only because i believe she was wrong and you din’t deserve it. but you know what, when she met you, she was all kissy kissy hi hi. eek. beh tahan, opinion of her dropped. please keep doing whatever you do, you’re doing it right!
your life is nobody’s business but your own. the fact that you’ve laid out a part of it on a public domain makes you vulnerable to attack sometimes so i think its good to censor the negatives and take back that control over what you want to show your readers.
Hi Joyce, love your blog, and please don’t take heart to what others are writing about you. You know yourself best, so long as you know you didn’t do anything wrong, and the people around you believes you and support you unconditionallly, that’s all that matters.
This is a just a general comment, but sometimes, try to be more careful with people around you. Who knows, it’s your friends who are jealous that might be writing all these abusive comments.
If there’s nothing u have done. Need not explain. Seems like u r trying real hard to explain. Is it the guilt in u that guide u there? No matter how open a person is, u r still just an ordinary girl. If one thinks that she is special, so does everyone else in a different way. Happy for all the supportive comments but X made me add on to your comment.
Support is from those who read n like how u write. They don’t know the real u. This is just a blog.. maybe everyone can step out of the circle n look at what really happened n put urself in her shoe. Everything happens for a reason. Nasty comments happens for a reason.
i think you’re cool.. dun worry about those ppl. everyone lives their life differently. stay cool n love your hair!
hey Joyce, u prob don’t remember me but we used 2 go 2 the same church (when I still went..)
I was flamed before as well.. Got called all sorts of nasty stuff and till this day the girl still bitches about me and its been over a year..
I won’t pretend to know whats going on.. and it is prob true tat the ppl tat r supporting u love ur blog but don’t know u at all..
but to the people insulting u.. U ask her to put herself in the other girl’s shoes.. Did you put urself in Joyce’s shoes? You call her a slut and bf-stealer… Do you know her side of the story? You say that this post is an explanation? Its venting out frustration..
I cannot defend her actions.. but that does not give u a right to come and flame her.. U rn’t even a party to the whole thing.. and fyi, u r giving ppl more reason to back Joyce up and think of the other girl poorly because ur actions..