I didn’t think of deleting any of the hateful comments i got at first.
Branding me a slut, a boyfriend-stealer, amongst others.
“I’m so sorry… are you okay?” asked DM.
“Yeah. I’m fine,” i said flatly.
“I don’t know how you do it…”
“Well, i know it’s not true. And we have no idea who these people are. So why let it bother me? If i listened to everything people had to say about me, i wouldn’t be myself!”
I wouldn’t.
I’d be too cautious and choked up, afraid and wondering what people people people will say.
“Can’t you take them down?”
“Yes… but i won’t. Cos i have nothing to hide.”
“But it’s not fair..!”
“I know it’s not fair. It’s just circumstance.”
“Do you want me to leave a comment and say something?” he asked worriedly.
I laughed. “What are you going to say? Gosh, don’t need la.”
So i left them up.
Someone else branded him a slut.
“What… i’ve never been called a slut before!” he shook his head in disbelief.
I joked wryly, “See… maybe you shouldn’t go out with a blogger, huh?”
He gave a lopsided smile in reply.
So still i left them up.
And they got worse… and worse.
Stupid people are, and always will be, stupid.
They only talk and listen to what they want to hear.
The fact that you spoke to a close friend of the ex means you have all the story?
I’m sure everyone has their own version to the story.
Have you bothered asking DM what he has to say?
I consulted blog tai kor Kenny Sia.
Kenny Sia says:
wtf some ppl too free
*KinkyChillFairy* says:
do you moderate your comments? or you don’t bother
Kenny Sia says:
of course i delete some nasty comments
its my web space, i paid for it
why should i allow abusive comments to reside on my site?
like i’m paying ppl to abuse me
*KinkyChillFairy* says:
lol
Kenny Sia says:
damn not worth it right?
but it sucks that that’s the case lah
seriously, feel free to del the comments
or if u can ban the ip, even better
*KinkyChillFairy* says:
ha ok, i ask my programmer
seriously -_- go see my last post comments. they like fucking cannot stop ok
Kenny Sia says:
u gotta be able to track the ip address from ur admin window
see if they’re the same folks
*KinkyChillFairy* says:
they are
i just checked
In our short conversation, his line repeated in my head: “Of course i delete some nasty comments.
Its my web space, i paid for it. Why should i allow abusive comments to reside on my site? Like i’m paying ppl to abuse me.”
So for the first time since i moved site, i deleted the comments.
But to the poor hardworking folk who have been diligently posting those comments, why, hello there.
Of course, by hello, i’m referring to the three or so people who have been finding time to invest in fictional story-telling, but you already knew this was for you. Why wouldn’t you? The only reason you would stop by and have a little chat is because you’d want me to respond.
So here i am.
Unfortunately for you, this isn’t a two-way conversation. If i made a little effort, i can probably confirm your identities, but where’s the fun in that? Of course, the fun lies in *your* claims. Oh, and for the others reading this, by *your*, i mean the three IPs who have been spamming comments the past few days. Staggering crowd, i know.
You call me a slut. I call you a liar.
You call me a thief. I call you a liar.
You call caution to my kinky name. What are you, nine-years-old?
This isn’t a rebuttal, because i don’t owe you an explanation, especially when you don’t have the balls to tell it to my face and have me slam it back at yours in return. I can and should elaborate on all the things which will inevitably make you look like an idiot, but that’s not necessary. I say this because you’re still the coward behind the monitor, and i’m the one asking you to, at the very least, con more people into joining your deluded cause because frankly, if you want a revolution, build an army.
At least don’t be silly and lie about it too.
Oh, wow… I guess you really got to me because look, you took up 15 minutes of my drinking time at Somo.
If you have further questions, please, feel free to ask me there.
I might even buy you a drink.
No poison. I promise.
To sum up:
– the two others who insult Joyce fail to make clear points,
– thus encouraging 40-plus blog readers to call them envious,
– and rally behind Joyce on the merit of her blog and image,
– completely ignoring the valid point that this blog is Joyce’s,
– and most readers comment on Joyce from what she chooses to blog about herself,
– and do not know her personally.
I have no doubt that further readers’ posts will follow these trends. I understand that readers feel the need to choose Joyce’s camp by dismissing the (two) flamers and their vague points.
Please don’t forget, however, that it seems clear that the ex was hurt by the breakup. Readers who are not personal friends of Joyce have no way of knowing if the ex was treated unfairly or not, since we really have nobody’s side of the story – not Joyce’s, not DM’s, nor the ex’s.
Also note: I am not insulting Joyce, and people who stoop to insults to make their points are clearly unable to articulate themselves, whether for lack of quality education or literacy.
If you personally know all 3 of them like me than you will know that:
The ex – has moved on.
DM – is confuse
Joyce – is in denial
By suggesting others to put shoes in her shoes isn’t an insult. From my previous comment, I mean step out of this, understand the whole scenario not just by the post before we make any judgement cos things really happens for a reason. There’s always a start point. Take for example, rain don’t just fall from the sky (check wikipedia). Another example, imagine if she didn’t post this blog, no one will flame her. The break-up happens for a reason. I go back to my point, ‘things happens for a reason’. Again, this is a blog. A blog is subject to comments (good or bad).
Charlotte: Take it easy. If u side her, by all means go ahead n find ur own point y u side her. Btw, I did not say anything like ‘bf stealer’ or ‘slut’ so pls do not put words in my mouth. Very interesting statement tho.
no more a fren, i wasn’t responding 2 ur comment.. I was commenting based on her post and subsequent comments.. she stated it herself.. I didn’t say u said it.. Don’t assume that everything was about u..
I’m commenting because I know how much it sux 2 be flamed.. Bad comments r one thing, flaming is another.. and I already said I cannot defend her actions as I don’t know what is going on.. I just don’t think people should come here and insult her to that extent..
The pasts has had many great men and by great not everyone of them were particularly nice nor kind.
oh sure miss kinky pinked haired ( ‘such charisma you exude’) blue fairy is quite an intelligent blogger.her nickname itself screams for attention.her style though extremely pallatable to some draws attention to many others as well.
Though one must wonder how many of these ‘supporters’ actually know what and who they’re supporting.to a certain extent i get this feeling that they are directing a personal reverie,so consumed by something thats so unfortunate for ‘the ex’.
Support…support…support what exactly? supporting a selective conversation made by DM and JW and then posted? each paraphrased with the administrators ability to edit? Gosh some of you are little hittler minions who dont even see the truth behind the act. great men don’t always make for kind hearts.Then again we cant really hail Kinky on par with hitler. One was indeed great the other…well…if you call yourself kinky…i suppose… ‘GGGOOOOOO kinky’?
I sure hope this doesn’t come accross as ‘nasty’ but lets have the story be told as it is simply(oh duh i am such a ‘the ex’ supporter).
So ‘the ex’ and DM was on a break and ‘GGGOOOOOO Kinky’ was conveniently around at that time (to provide a crying shoulder i suppose),where she conveniently slipped herself in of which she conveniently ends up in his NICE APPARTMENT looking out at the riots along Jalan Ampang (pink toothbrush at his place?),where she again conveniently got a RIDE home from DM’s driver on the day her dog died (so sorry for your loss).
And now she’s going out with him…apparently lah.
JACKPOT!!!
now there’s Chairman Mao who was great,there’s Hitler who was great and there’s George Bush Jr who’s still great.all smart intellectual beings. as for her…’GGGOOOOOO KINKY’
oh and to you so called supporters…vote for DAP (its the one with a rocket).you’ll serve a better purpose for your country.
Love Beng
*clap* *clap* *clap*
well said beng.. well said. (is it obvious IM also a ‘the ex’ supporter?)
Ok… It’s time to put an end to this. For the past few days I have read all the comments (even prior to deletion) and I just cannot believe the amount of untruths, accusations, innuendo and unjust branding that has been posted by people who are clearly not in the know! I understand that a blogger puts their life out there for public scrutiny but you people must remember that your comments have an adverse effect on two innocent by-standers in this situation. (but that aside, my gawd, there are some spiteful people out there to leave such hateful comments). So, I am going to set the record straight once and for all and then you can all get on with your lives and leave DM and the “so-called ex” alone to work through the pain which they are going through after their break-up, and focus back on Kinky Blue Fairy’s writings. (by the way, you write extremely well for someone so young)
I am perhaps one of a handful of people who is very close to both DM and the “so-called ex”. For the record, I love them both dearly and if anyone was the “perfect couple”, it was them. I have heard from both parties concerned and both their stories of the situation corroborate so their is no one-sidedness in this post! Neither party would probably want me to write this and I also know neither party actually ever reads blogs but at the end of the day I feel it is necessary as although they are both brave people, it is difficult to get on with life when people keep discussing them in a public forum!
So here goes.
The “so-called ex” said she was not happy and wanted to leave DM. That’s a fact. DM did not dump the “so-called ex” for another woman. He was in fact in shock that the “so-called ex” wanted to leave him. So to all the speculators out their who thought that Kinky Blue Fairy stole him, made him move to a new apartment, and start a new life with her, I am sorry to disappoint you. As for the sexual propositions, I cant say whether that was true or not because I have known DM for a very long time and have been witness to him receiving some really ludicrous and provocative propostions. But I can say this, he is anything but unfaithful and definitely not one to sleep around.
Secondly, DM and Kinky Blue Fairy are not an item. Yes, they have been hanging out together, but (unless something has changed in the last few days) from what I have been told, they get on famously and like each other a lot, but DM is looking to have a breather for a while. He has not run straight in to the arms of the next girl he met.
To “michelle” who created the label “so-called ex”, what an absolutely inflammatory comment you left. I am assuming you were at twenty one the night DM had a drink with the “so-called ex” and her friends. For you to say he was all over her is not just an amazing exaggeration but is actually just plain outrageous. DM and the “so-called ex” obviously still have feelings for each other but sitting next to each other, having a drink and chatting with friends hardly constitutes an act of being “all over her”. I am assuming you have issues with Kinky Blue Fairy and used this as an opportunity to be vindictive.
To “z” who claims to know all three, clearly you don’t! The “so-called ex” has definitely not moved on, however is doing her best to stay sane through all this and get her life back together. DM is not confused. He was heart broken and is trying to get on with his day to day life and is focused on work right now. And as for Kinky Blue Fairy, I have no idea what she has to be in denial of as from what I can see, she hasn’t done anything which needs to be denied.
So can we please put this to bed and let both DM and the “so-called ex” get on with their lives without having a running commentary of their break-up. To DM and the ”so-called ex”, your true friends are here for you. We would all love to see you get back together, but if that is not a possibility then we want you to know that we love you both and remember that you are gorgeous (both looking and in the heart) people, and that the two of you have more than most to offer the world.
Can we now please say “THE END”.
Maybe someone should not stretch the truth when writing a post. So they are not going out. Fact. Don’t say things that are not true. Maybe we did it the wrong way, but at the end of the day the intention was the same – to set the record straight. I don’t personally know anyone that has posted a comment but I am sure they had the same intention behind it. So when I say ‘we’ I am representing everyone else that was not on Kinky’s side.
Like you, ‘set the record’, we feel DM and ‘the ex’ is the perfect couple and nothing and no one should come between them. Convenience does not happen by chance, neither does it appear right at your door step.
To DM and ‘The ex’, ‘Set the record’ has said everything that we want to say to you.
drama betul.. sigh..
its just jealousy …
I guess it is just hurtful for the ex when KBF starting writing about having her towel and toothbrush in his apartment, them making out, her spending a night, bla bla bla. Having sex or not, that is not what I am assuming – but putting yourself in the ex’s shoe – it hurts big time.
Their break-off had a reason. I doubt KBF has anything to do with it other than being there or, worst case scenario, she took advantage of the broken relationship to get DM. From a girl’s point of view, is that wrong if you really like that guy? Maybe yes, maybe no. Life is all about grabbing the opportunities if you really want something. Things doesn’t just fall on your lap.
I just wished that KBF would stop writing such things as it hurts the ex. But, she might continue writing about since she is getting so much more visitors and attention on her blog and that equals MONEY! She needs it to keep her lifestyle and pay for her trips next year.
“By the way, you write extremely well for someone so young.”
This is rather a condescending compliment. Writing well has got nothing to do with age but more to do with education, reading and writing habits. My mother does not write as well as I do because she had a less fortunate upbringing than I. Most people write poorly from habit – e.g. contractions like u, ur, tat, fren; bad grammar like ‘things doesn’t just fall on your lap’; mixed metaphors (laughable conflations of Mao, Hitler, Bush).
“So when I say ‘we’ I am representing everyone else that was not on Kinky’s side.”
With respect, you do not represent me. All anonymous posters – myself included – forfeit the right to represent any opinion other than of themselves. And it is entirely possible for me to sympathize with the ex without avowedly siding with anyone.
I am quite alarmed by the spitefulness of many anonymous comments. This space is Joyce’s space on the web. It is, as she and Kenny assume, her property. So long as I am hosted by her the option of commenting (and editing my comments) anonymously, it is my responsibility to respond courteously even though I disagree with her. I do so. But I will not be represented by anyone who has failed to observe the fine line between courteous disagreement and outright opportunism.
Joyce: whatever the circumstances of your present relationship, it is entirely in your right to delete comments of those who, knowing nothing outside this blog, have used the opportunity to slander you. Even mine, if you deem it so. All posters other than yourself are (legally and figuratively) guests on your property. Stop hosting comments of those who are taking advantage of, rather than reciprocating, your courtesy.
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omg woman! what’s all this?
delete delete delete.
p/s: I think you’re incredibly nice! love love.